Everyone has to weigh what works and doesn't work for them individually.
What you might not be able to stomach anymore, someone else might not see as a big deal. Do you truly still love him and see a future together -- or are you just worried about a single income, about being lonely, or about dating again?
When it all gets too confusing, you remind yourself what those last couple years of marriage were like. Adrift on a sea of self-hatred which you direct at each other, self-medicating with food and alcohol and excellent TV series binges. Like riding in a fast-moving car without a seat belt. He says things to you no man has ever said, he romances you like nobody ever has. You’re supposed to keep writing about all of it but you don’t know what to write because it’s all so confusing.
He came to every birthday party, and eventually every party we ever had he came as a friend and part of the family.
My ex-husband and I have been divorced since our children were small (they are now in their 20s).